Have you ever done something reckless, or turned away from something or someone you care deeply about in a quest to be a happiness explorer?
You probably thought it was crazy. Maybe you couldn’t explain it but it just felt right, and you knew it would benefit more than just you eventually.
I have – several times. Shaking things up, breaking the rules then starting over to transform what’s left has always come naturally. It’s not something I’m afraid of.
Staying the same is.
You might be wondering where I’ve been lately. (Sorry about that).
Well… I’ve been on a journey that involves tales of horror, a miracle and a lot of tequila. I’ve returned to explain a bit about that and share some other exciting news.
What I’ve got to say may help you too.
So, did I travel the world? Explore ancient temples or dive out of planes by parachute? Nope. (er…I’d NEVER dive from a plane, that IS crazy!)
Actually, I stayed a lot closer to home: I went inward. To discover more of who I am, what I want, and what motivates me to do what I do.
As well as some incredible highs, I went digging around in the lows. The ‘don’t go in there!’ shadows of myself that I’d kept hidden away. It wasn’t pretty – a bit like Stephen King’s IT at times – but it has been transformational.
And in doing so it’s helped me find more of the freedom I’ve always been looking for.
Not the external freedom I thought I would get by earning more money or meeting a soulmate. (Hells, I like that kind of freedom too).
But the freedom INSIDE. Freedom from second guessing myself, the self loathing internal monologues and not feeling good enough.
Here’s what happened…
It started last July when I took a 2 month break from business coaching so that I could recharge. I LOVED working with my clients. But I was spent.
6 months later, I still wasn’t ready to come back. My back-to-work date kept slipping further away until I finally went completely absent without leave.
I stopped prospecting, writing my weekly emails and blogs. I closed down my Facebook page, neglected this website.
I knew I risked business suicide but that didn’t scare me. However, to keep putting stuff ‘out there’ just so that you wouldn’t forget about me felt wrong on sooo many levels.
Instead, I left and said nothing. Not knowing what to say, to be honest. I didn’t know how long I was going or have a rational explanation. I wasn’t sure when I’d be back and I didn’t want to put pressure on myself by imposing a deadline.
I knew I had to go and work on myself
So I kept blurring out my reality with tequila while keeping faith that my inner knowing would figure it out. Somehow.
But the longer I was away, the harder it was to come back.
I remained proud and grateful for the business I’d developed: My amazing clients, the personal milestones, the reputation I’d earned, working with incredible accomplished business owners who inspired me. My hard work had paid off – I’d created the business I’d always wanted: small, flexible, forward-thinking, profitable and mine.
But I was beginning to realise that I didn’t want that anymore. And it scared me to SHIT.
Truth is, I was lonely and tired of making all the decisions. The responsibility gave me head spins and tasted sickly. Like when you KNOW you’ve had one tequila too many.
I was done working alone.
I also knew that something was missing from what I wanted to offer. I’d come to recognise through my work with clients that personal internal blocks – lack of confidence, self belief, fear of the unknown – will limit success and ultimately get in the way of fully achieving. No matter how robust the plan.
Every fucking time.
Except I didn’t have the training to help them transform those blocks. And like a mirror, I saw how my own shit was keeping me stuck and in fear of going back to work. More tequila!
It took me almost a year of painful soul searching to get clarity on what I really wanted – that process accelerated and got a lot easier once I accepted help. This is what I realised:
I wanted to be part of a team doing work that makes a bigger impact.
So how would I get from making my decision to making it a reality?
Well, I was on the cusp of going on a fully fledged job hunt. The full time employed kind that I swore I would never go back to.
That’s when a frickin’ miracle happened…
Almost as soon as I’d come to my realisation, a dear friend and transformational life coach, Lydia Kimmerling, posted on Facebook that she was looking for coaches to join her team of Happiness Explorers.
Lydia was looking to expand her already successful business. Ideal candidates would want to work remotely with clients 1:1, take part in live events in London and Ibiza, and be part of a team passionate about reaching as many people as possible to help them get unstuck and find their own version of happiness and freedom.
It was exactly what I was looking for.
We swiped right and found a perfect match!
Fast forward to today, after 3 months of intense training, a 4 day immersion mastermind, and a live event in London, I’m now a proud member of the Happiness Explorer coaching team.
It’s been a long while since I’ve been this excited about the future. Lydia’s ethos is on point – we’ve worked together in the past and share the same values, strongly believing in not settling for a happy-’ish’ ANYTHING!
What now, Happiness Explorer?
For now, I’m focussing 100% on being a Happiness Explorer coach and pausing my work indefinitely here at AliciaOrre.com.
If you are interested in the transformational work we’re doing, hop over to The Happiness Explorer website and dig into the free resources we’ve got to help you explore more of what makes you happy.
Plus, If you feel like a fresh start and want my help, grab a Happiness Exploration with me here – it’s free.
When you’re stuck and life is a bit ‘ish’, your transformation doesn’t have to be the drawn out, confusing process like mine has been. Wow…I’ve learned that with the right guidance, it can be simple and straightforward. And the sooner you start, the sooner more happiness can be yours.
Lastly, I want to thank you for being here. For giving me time in your day to read this. It’s because of you that I came back.